Healthy Disciplining

Disciplining our children is indeed a time consuming and (seems-to-be) never ending job, but satisfaction of giving quality upbringing is incomparable to anything in the world.
Parents should always appreciate the fact that every child is unique in her behavior and personality, and though there are some fundamental rules to follow while disciplining them, the way of implementing them will vary from child to child.
Parents should feel empathy while dealing with their own kids. They should try to place themselves in kid’s shoes and then talk to them understanding the reason behind a particular behavior
a) Too much should and don’ts should be avoided. Try to be a person of few words, but those words should be effective, appropriate and should be conveyed in an authoritative tone
b) Try to be consistent, if you are stopping him from doing something at a particular time and not saying anything at other times, kids will not be clear about that issue.
c) Parents should avoid saying different things on the same issue, this will confuse the kid and smarter kids will try to take advantage of the situation.
d) Treat them like an adult and see the high level of their cooperation, its true! This will give them your attention, will satisfy their ego and if you are discussing the thing with them (rather than pressurizing) they feel more responsible.
e) Always appreciate children for their good behavior. This will lead to high self esteem and it’s well known that a person with high self esteem has less behavioral problem. Keeping a glass in the kitchen without being asked to do so might be a very small thing for you but she has done it for the first time and she is doing it only for your appreciation, if you are ignoring it then you only are inviting more active behavior from her side to get your attention.
f) Don’t remind the child her misbehavior again and again.
g) We are the role model for our kids; we should set an example by immediately saying sorry if we are wrong. And mind you, we will not know when our children are observing our behavior.
h) Harsh punishments like locking the child in the bathrooms, hitting with belts, threatening that they will be put in a boarding, are complete no-no. Imagine what feelings you will have towards the person who does this to you except hate and resentment.
i) Always respect your child. Making fun of them or rejecting their opinions will not help in anyway.

Disciplining is necessary, it instill in children a sense of self control,self worth which becomes useful for them when they set out on their own. Our approach should be to endure and unearth the latent humaneness present in every child.